Why is the value of coaching for men who visit adult entertainers so high? And why is it impossible to quantify by a precise figure? Because it is intangible, yet so very tangible in these men’s lives! As value is intangible, it is not easy to grasp. But I’ll do my best to help you do so here…
Most men visit adult entertainers
because they have a problem – or several problems – in life. Some men will feel affronted when they read these words, but that doesn’t change the truth of the fact. And feeling affronted would be a rich area for some good coaching! Many others will deeply identify with this fact. Look at it this way, dear reader: if a man didn’t have a problem or several problems in life, he wouldn’t have to pay for what he should be able to get naturally free of charge. Paying adult “entertainers” is an artificial state of affairs.
Men are generally not good communicators. I said generally because this doesn’t apply to all men. But since 60% of the world population are generalists and the societal trend is more and more generalist, this statement is very true. When men don’t know how to communicate clearly with themselves, they don’t know how to clearly communicate with others. And when they don’t know how to clearly communicate with others, they have difficulties in relationships, which isolates them. Thus they pay adult “entertainers” to escape the isolation and emptiness in them. But humans are social creatures, and everyone needs company, touch, compassion, comforting, a compliment, romance, to feel useful, a part of something meaningful, to love and be loved. Hence men pay for the illusion of this inclusion, belonging, closeness. And sex is a physicalisation of all that.
But few men are so lucky that the first adult “entertainer” whom they come across will entertain them in the true sense of the word! And most men know this very well indeed. So looking for that one person in life with whom they will feel all that inclusion and closeness becomes a never-ending quest, expenditure, and another task in their busy lives.
Hence the value of coaching for men who visit adult entertainers
is that the coach will be the only person in their lives who will ask them how they are and mean it! And the only person who will listen to their deepest troubles without judging. Coaching became so popular in business because people who direct and lead corporations and companies had one person in their lives who was interested in their troubles and wellbeing. One person whom they could tell what they couldn’t tell colleagues, family members, and the public. It is immensely relieving and liberating to have such person in our lives. Even if we pay that person!
Another value of coaching is that a good coach will always be objective. Colleagues, friends, lovers, and family members are subjective. Hence they don’t make good coaches. Colleagues, friend, lovers, family members are emotionally involved to various extents, but still. A coach is emotionally neutral. Plus the coach has training which enables her to spot patterns in your spoken and body language that help and also hinder you. She can point these patterns out as she has the objective and emotionally neutral view of them. Pointing them out gives you a choice to do something about them. And if you don’t know what to do, the coach can help you find the right thing to do.
Another value of coaching is that the coach will help you find what to do in very different ways than would colleagues, family members, etc. Because the coach has training that the colleagues, family members, etc. do not have.
You will feel an intimate connection in coaching
that you will never feel with an adult “entertainer”. This deeply intimate connection develops due to the fact that the coach won’t judge you and a good coach will be genuinely keen to act in your best interests while an adult “entertainer” will care only about your money. You’ll feel that the coach understands you and is somehow on the same wavelength as you because she will deeply listen and hear you. This is why so many clients of coaching fall in love with their coaches! We all feel good when someone understands us!
A man who looks for sex on “escort” sites is driven by hedonism – pleasure. Coaching will therefore be the last thing on his mind if it even be on his mind at all! Thus some readers may feel resistance while reading this article. But even that resistance is feedback… Well, if you feel that you would strongly benefit, act on the feeling and get coaching. I promise you that it will change your life like no adult “entertainer” ever would, and be less expensive in the long term. Shall we have a conversation?
